in boston. felt like a very long week. i’ll move in officially to the new apartment tomorrow. will be unpacking to tosca probably. some random thoughts:
sooo glad to be able to walk home. what a wonderful feeling. i’m beyond happy to not have a car. every time walking to the apartment, i am alive with a true belonging feeling. how is this move compared to my first move here or my move back to LA? i think every move has the same structure where the first couple of years you can be a bit lost and lonely with no friend base. it took me 2 years to make more than 3 friends my first time in Boston. Of course you have to take into account the fact that i slept in my office the first 2 years of school and didn’t know where the Boston Harbor was :-D. i missed my friend greatly on my move to LA mainly because LA was so spread-out, so on top of the fact of missing friend, i also felt i was lost in the city. This time around? all friends had left already (that’s what people do here in Boston after they finish school).
the weekend is rolling in and i won’t be able to just call sisters and have the kids over for fun, or won’t be able to just call my newly-made white-shirt friend and have her+partner over to grab a bite and watch some operas. The way you make friend here, at least, is different than in LA. Over there, frankly, i have no idea how you can meet friend. it’s so spread out, everyone is into their own thing, apparently the things i enjoy doing are considered “extreme”. Here, i think the proper thing to do is to sign myself up for some club, starting with the outing club and perhaps the ballroom dancing team 🙂 . I’ve talked about Boston being a nice city. Part of it is of course the cultural facet (NEC for example). A big part, however, is the people. Here, having a Ph.D. is the norm. probably the next person you meet has both a Ph.D. and an M.D., or a Ph.D. and Law degree, or some crazy combinations. Oh, and on the side, they might be competing at a national level dance competition or trekking the Andes or have a musical concert for friends next week… If you want to go for a 10+hr hike? just put your name down on the list! car-pool is also organized. what about biking boston to provincetown?? i wouldn’t be surprised if there are people doing it this weekend. last summer i was here for 2 weeks working and managed to get myself into such a biking tour (shorter distance) with some guys in the office, soo much fun (and pain). it’s a long winded way of saying anything i want to do here, there’re already many groups somewhere and i’m most likely a beginner.
that’s not to say that it’s that easy. i admit life in the office here is somehow quite different than at my old work place. there, we get together everyday for lunch, very friendly. here i’ve been eating lunch alone in the office for 1 week now, and that might continue for a while. still haven’t found a good noodle soup place yet… in fact what would be very good now is some home-made soup from younger sister! somehow this environment has the tendency to put me in a rather asocial schedule. i’m already slipping into one in fact. the worse schedule is of course when you go to bed at sunrise and wake up at sunset!
that was my schedule for much of graduate school! the first few years were fun though, because best friend had the exact same schedule. We ate “breakfast” around 7pm, went for ice cream at 24-hr supermarket at midnight, worked until sunrise, pushed the cart into kitchen to cook dinner, then closed the blind and went to sleep :-D. not a desirable schedule now i have to admit, as asocial as you can get. at least the nice thing about late schedule is that i can listen to music. finally got around to listen to alcina again. this is now my home-key. need to tune in to get my balance and serenity 🙂 .
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